From a previous blog of mine
Going in the right path, when all around yourself are free to do whatever the hell they want to do, is a bit difficult but not impossible. We know we have to keep pace with this world but it does not mean that we are supposed to change the values that we have. If we are convinced of our values, they should be given the first preference while deciding on the factor of changing oneself to suit the world.
Changing without losing your own distinct identity is the key to a successful change. Keeping pace with the world, while folowing our own ideals is an art. One of the first things in this direction is to be positively assertive. Don't take anyone's opinion or remark too seriously. Secondly, identify, upto a certain extent, what your core values are. Is honesty a part of your character or you are a person who fits the situation? Or are you a totally dishonest person? Is taking risk your nature or you are always one who'd prefer a safer path. Identify who you are and what are your best qualities. Do not compare with others. It may be that you are best at doing house work. But the friend near you who is too popular in your workplace is some one different: think twice before emulating her blindly. Be yourself. And for that you have to know what are your best qualities. One of my friends is best in keeping quiet and that helps her in her life.
Continuous progress is an untold things that we always want. I said progress. Not change.
Let us believe that continous change is mandatory. You cannot stop it. But continous progress is what is under our control.
Progress continously. Follow your own values.
This world is a very funny place. You cannot ever say for sure what the world wants. But it is an easier task to decide what you want. Focus on few things at a time. (You may wish for hundreds of things!)
The following is a quote I had seen long back - repeating it - it is by Ralph Ellison, "Battle Royal"
Going in the right path, when all around yourself are free to do whatever the hell they want to do, is a bit difficult but not impossible. We know we have to keep pace with this world but it does not mean that we are supposed to change the values that we have. If we are convinced of our values, they should be given the first preference while deciding on the factor of changing oneself to suit the world.
Changing without losing your own distinct identity is the key to a successful change. Keeping pace with the world, while folowing our own ideals is an art. One of the first things in this direction is to be positively assertive. Don't take anyone's opinion or remark too seriously. Secondly, identify, upto a certain extent, what your core values are. Is honesty a part of your character or you are a person who fits the situation? Or are you a totally dishonest person? Is taking risk your nature or you are always one who'd prefer a safer path. Identify who you are and what are your best qualities. Do not compare with others. It may be that you are best at doing house work. But the friend near you who is too popular in your workplace is some one different: think twice before emulating her blindly. Be yourself. And for that you have to know what are your best qualities. One of my friends is best in keeping quiet and that helps her in her life.
Continuous progress is an untold things that we always want. I said progress. Not change.
Let us believe that continous change is mandatory. You cannot stop it. But continous progress is what is under our control.
Progress continously. Follow your own values.
This world is a very funny place. You cannot ever say for sure what the world wants. But it is an easier task to decide what you want. Focus on few things at a time. (You may wish for hundreds of things!)
The following is a quote I had seen long back - repeating it - it is by Ralph Ellison, "Battle Royal"
All my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was. I accepted their answers too, though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory. I was naïve. I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer. It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with: that I am nobody but myself.
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